Mena Rani did not approve of Shivji's appearance. But he had a vital lesson to teach her before he became her son in law-"What offends your sensibility may just be checking it." This has been a very important lesson of ancient seers of Hinduism.
Very often we think we are the standard setters of how things should be, even God!so God Himself, as Shiva with His hideous hobgoblins during his own wedding, or Kali Ma with her inexplicable appearance , and also chinamasta, and some other Mahavidyas ,put on certain'unconventional' appearances for our evolution in understanding, which have very spiritual secret significance. The bhakt who cannot 'see' beyond the appearance is not yet ready to Understand that God is everything, the manifest, and the unmanifest, all that has been and all that shall be.Nothing whatsoever, is out of his perview.
In fact the Rishis from early times knew about these things and this can be better understood as "Adhikari bheda" .
Daksha prajapati was a prime example of arrogance who thought he "knew it all" but failed to Recognize Lord shiva as supreme. Mena Rani was helped by parvati herself in asking shivji to show his Sunder roop, because she was not arrogant, but only full of motherly love for her daughter. Her position was very different from Daksha.
Aum Namah Shivaya!!! let us all love Shivji for his wonderful way of teaching.
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